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Welcome to Day 12.
Let’s get straight to it. We’re talking about accountability. And this one might sting a little.
Do you ever find yourself blaming other people for the life you’re living? Are you even aware that you’re the one in the front seat of your own life—not your parents, your partner, your boss, or your past?
Let’s be brutal for a second. Do you find yourself:
- Making your happiness someone else’s responsibility?
- Projecting onto others, waiting for them to fix how you feel?
- Feeling entitled to someone else’s resources, even though you’re a full-grown adult who should be self-reliant?
It’s time to look hard at how we deny responsibility in all seven domains of our lives.
Let’s break it down:
- Spiritually: Are you waiting for a pastor, imam, or guru to connect you to God? Waiting for someone else to pray for you or maintain your soul? That’s your job.
- Mentally: Are you waiting for someone to fix your mind for you? Are your thoughts a constant burden you dump on someone else? Your mental garden is yours to weed.
- Emotionally: Are you projecting your insecurities onto others? Instead of managing your own emotions, are you lashing out at people who don’t deserve it? Do you lack emotional regulation? They are your emotions; manage them.
- Physically: Are you blaming circumstances for the body you cannot stand to look at, despite having an active role in its development through your choices in food or lack of exercise? The body you live in? It’s yours. No one else’s.
- Value & Work: Are you waiting for a boss or a partner to make you feel purposeful and important? That feeling comes from one place: you adding more value by putting in the work yourself.
- Financially: Blaming the government? Your background? Your parents? Your spouse? Life? It’s a hard truth, but it’s your job to figure it out. Harsh? Yes. Extremely true? Also yes.
- Socially: Blaming others for looking down on you? Do you respect yourself? Or do you keep criss-crossing your own boundaries, carrying yourself like a joke, and entertaining anyone who comes into your life?
See, it’s incredibly easy to find something—or someone—else to blame.
However, the truth is that you are usually about 90% responsible for your own experiences.
You need to learn how to sit down with your own flaws. You need to learn to be the CEO of You Inc.
Study your leaks. Not to judge yourself, but to quickly come up with solutions and strategies to fix them. The only people we allow to get away with zero accountability are children. But as an adult? You must stay on top of things at all times.
You can’t go around blaming people for the bed you made and slept in. You can’t lash out because you can’t manage your own emotions.
Run your life like you would run a multi-billion dollar company.
That means knowing when to act, where to invest, how to present yourself, how to maintain your brand, and who to partner with.
If you were Coca-Cola, you wouldn’t go around blaming Pepsi because your stocks are falling, would you? No. You’d be locked in that boardroom, strategizing, figuring out how to get your company back on top.
Your life is that company. Get in the boardroom and strategize.